I had the strangest conversation with my son last night. I am not sure, but I think it broke my heart a little. But in that good way. That way that makes you realize that the sweet little boy sitting in front of you will one day grow into a man with stinky feet, facial hair, and raging hormones who may or may not need his mama. And that's ok. Sort of.
Ethan told me he wanted to find a girlfriend. Funny, I thought this conversation would happen a long time from now. But he was very very serious, so I tried to listen and participate in this conversation without cracking a smile. It seems that his BFF (my description, not his) has a girlfriend, so he thought he should find him one too.
I asked him what he was looking for in a girlfriend. He got the cutest little sly grin on his face and he eyes literally sparkled. He must have been thinking a lot about this.
Ethan: I want her to be pretty.
Me: Ok. I think that is a good idea. What else?
Ethan: She needs to be sweet.
Me: Absolutely. Can't have a bossy girlfriend. What else?
Ethan: I don't want her to have any hair.
Me: WHAT?
He held out his arm and rubbed the peach fuzz to show me what he meant. Does he know any girls with particularly hairy arms??
Me: Ok. We will try to find you a girl with no body hair.
Ethan (petting his head this time): I want her to have soft hair too.
Me: Soft hair. Got it. Anything else?
Ethan: I want her to have skin like mine, not (kid at daycare who is darker then we are)'s.
Yikes! My mind was spinning. Where did he learn that? Lesson to be taught here. Don't screw this up. Think quick. How do you translate this lesson into 4-year-old-talk? Speak before his mind moves on to the next shiny penny.
Too Late.
Ethan: We will have to get some girl toys for her to play with when she comes to live here.
Heart. Broken. Just a little.
Goodbye K-12
3 days ago
2 comments:
Oh dear. There is so much to comment on here, but I'm going to hold myself to one thing: It appears from your post that this sweet boy's MOMMY is going to start looking for his girlfriend!?! Scarring! Hahaha!
I found your blog by seeing someone come from here to my blog so I thought I'd check it out! Cute post and I wouldn't worry too much about your son wanting a girlfriend with the same skin color. My biracial girls are keenly aware that mommy, daddy and they all have different skin colors. On more than one occasion they have expressed their wish that their skin was lighter. When questioned why it's always because mommy or one of their BFF's has light skin. They want to be like the people they like. Just tell him that all skin is beautiful and it doesn't matter what color it is.
Love the fact that he's all ready for his new girlfriend to move in! :)
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